Do they really not care about us?

Do they really not care about us?

They scold us when we fight. They beat us, when we quarrel among st ourselves. They punish us when we have a hand-to-hand combat. They instruct us not to fight, not to quarrel but what about when they do it themselves? There is the unspoken rule that whenever we are kids fight, we’ll get a good scolding or beating but what’s the penalty when the adults fight?

The action of children can be justify as they are immature, inexperienced and basically because they are kids. Any of their pranks or fights can be forgiven, and they can be taught to be better people in the long run. But what can we say about the older lot, the parents! How can their fights, their quarrels, and their brawls be justified? They are old enough to understand, have been through so much in life, have experience and know what’s right and what’s wrong, then what justifies their behavior?

Parents tell their kids not to fight but a child will never listen to you or accept whatever you have to say. It is but businessman’s trick. He/she will always pick cues from your actions. No parents would want their children to fight. Nor will they incite them to do so, then why don’t they understand that fighting with your spouse is the same as indirectly instructing your kid to fight? Why don’t they understand that fighting creates a very negative impact on a child’s behavior?  Why don’t they understand that fight between a mother and a father shears a child’s personality completely? And why don’t understand that fight hinder a child’s development, both physically and mentally?

The long term effect of constant arguments on a child’s head will be that either he/she will turn rebellious or will withdraw from the world. And, oh yes, after there has been an intense argument, parents do a double dirty tricks by talking out all their frustration out on their kids like scolding him/her on the slightest excuse, or, getting angry at him/her for no reasons at all. You may not realize this but a child may develop some kind of frustration feeling inside him/her and you would be the one solely responsible.

No parents would want their children growing up with any negative feeling inside him/her. The simplest solution is: don’t fight. Even if a single parent stops quarreling after reading this article of mine, I should have achieved my goal of pooling my courage and saying it aloud…